Tuesday 2 December 2008

Follow Your Basic Instinct....

Your mother knew what she talking about when she told you to trust your instincts. Whether it's about quitting your job, buying a new car, relocating to another place or city or just dumping your girlfriend. You've probably spent innumerable hours pondering the pros and cons of your decision... Only to take some decisive action, which unfortunately has been wrong one! With big time egg on your face, you've wondered about the uselessness of thinking at all and berated yourself for listening to your instinct(and mother too!). And you really couldn't be closer to the truth.
If research is to be believed, instinctive snap decisions are more reliable than decisions take using higher level cognitive processes. Says Dr. Li Zhaoping, of the department of psychology at the University college London, "The conscious function of the brain actively vetoes our initial subconscious decision, even when the latter is correct, leaving us unaware and distrustful of our instincts." that would explain why we go into alcoholic binges, drug overdoses, chain smoking, parallel relationships, abusive behavior etc, in spite of knowing - instinctively- that what we doing is wrong.
Very often, our gut feel is screaming out that we should stop in our tacks and not indulge in potentially harmful actions. but we blithely go ahead only to hang our heads in confused dejection later. According to psychiatrist Dr. Harish Shetty, most of us believe in our instinct but very few of us actually listen and pay heed to it. he explains, " Instinct is a broad term as it's a combination of basic urge and a higher form of understanding that is beyond logic. You could call instinct logic on fast track! When the basic urge overwhelms us, we lose our sense of balance and logic. That's when we do what we are habituated to as it's more pleasurable. Thats not true instinct. That's bowing to one's hormones..."

Generally, our instinct - or inner voice and subconscious mind - and our thinking are at war with each other. And that's when our rational mind comes in the way of our listening to our inner voice. States Dr. Anjali Chhabira, a consultant psychiatrist and psychotherapist, " Our learned behavior comes in the way of our paying heed to our instinct. Things like guilt, fear responsibilities, duties, expectations, etc, have to be factored in, which makes us ignore our inner voice." You instinctively know that buying the latest multi-featured mobile phone will not only burn a hole in your pocket but will also be of not much use to you, yet you go ahead and make that purchases. Why? Because you think your peers expect you to flaunt the latest gadget. That's your conscious mind stonewalling your inner voice. Or you may know that indulging in a one-night stand is neither really you and nor is it sign of fidelity, yet you dive between sheets. Why?That's because your basic urge takes over, tells your instinct to mind its own business as the task at hand is far more pleasurable than momentary abstinence. As Dr. Shetty says, "Whether we pay heed to our instinct or not depends on our state of mind." So if instant gratification is need of the hour, then you just down the shutters on your inner voice.

Instinct is inborn, but it needs to be developed. Your conscious mind has to be consciously free and alert to listen to your inner voice, your subconscious. So just suspend thinking for a while and listen to what your instinct says... you may not land up With pie on your face often!
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Tuesday 21 October 2008

Dying In Love...???

Last week one engineer fellow committed suicide in the hostel room (SJEC). Another person took Poison and now fighting with life and death in the hospital at udupi.
These two incidence really inspired me to write this Post.
In this both case the guys died for their love.. my question is there need to die in love. Its really good that dying for love.. whatever it is from Last 3yrs i came across many of my friends and other who are suffering from this love decease . Especially in many cases guys suffering more.. And I've seen many of my friends lost their sleep some become out of their mind. many of them are addicted to smoke drinking drugs etc.
I do love one girl and when it comes to her, she is everything to me. It really hurts when someone we love so much leave us alone and go. But is it your love loose towards her/him? Is there anything wrong in love? answer is NO. When your love doesn't decrease then why you thinking about dying? because you Think that you lost her/him and you can not meet her again. so here comes the point that when u come to know there is no way to get her/him, you loose your mind and you do these things....
1) You try all the sequences to get her/him.
2) You take revenge on her/him.
3) You go helpless and you think of give end to your life.
4) You Think that your not worth for her/him.
5) You will be try to be happy in your loved ones happiness.
6) You will never dare to love anyone in future unless you get Mr/Miss right for you.
Like this people will do many different things. But in all of these more dangerous is taking revenge on her/him or ending his/hr life by committing suicide.
Here my question is If you commit suicide or take revenge is there any meaning to your love? you loved him/her with whole your heart that time you take him/her as your sweetheart. if the persons time going bad anything will happen. in case in any condition he/she leaves you don't be sad or desperate. i know its easy to say, but its hard to follow. i tell you give a challenge to your self and prove that your are something and there is no one good other than you in any ways..
that time who left you alone in you life should realize and feel how unlucky they to loose you.
and its true that you also lost and suffered for that time only give answer. who knows in life's journey someone right is there for you. or someone you want come back to you..

But people don't go so depressed and make unforgivable mistake in your life. and for that you will not get another chance to come back..
whatever may be the condition face it. if you not enough stronger to face just accept it as it is...
1 minute anger or depression will take your 60 second happiness away and who know it will make you pay whole your life for that....

If you really more depressed or thinking that u want to end your life just mail me or leave comments here.. i will try to help u in depressed life...

Wednesday 8 October 2008

Why Shold ONE Meditate..?

Today the person having lots of Stress in their social as well as their personal life. How to be relax with this Stress? While searching ways to be relax people end up at Bars, pubs etc. Starting many bad habits like Drinking Alcohol, Smoking, Chewing gutka and many more... But are those things really help anyone? for some extent they will help you be relax and take you to the different world. but afterwards they leave you on your same positions.
HERE I've a solid idea to be relaxed Its nothing but meditation. you need a little time in your daily schedule. if you spend a little even 5 minute to be calm its more than enough.First thing about meditation is silence. you need to be silent yourself from all your work, activities, chatting, or anything which distract you. Sit anywhere you like and feel yourself comfortable. here i want to tel you is what is meditation all about? Methods and ways i wil tel you later. if you like this mail me or comment on this. Thank you.
The scientist like to define meditation as a state of restful alertness in which the mind is relaxed yet alert. It is often called the meditative state of consciousness, because it is different from our normal waking and sleeping consciousness.
Moreover once we start meditating we become more peaceful, less reactive and more stable. All these states lead to greater efficiency in our life with less stress or friction.
you can feel the beneficial effects of meditation right after first few sessions. The effects are subtle but cumulative. so with every passing day you wil find yourself a little less stressed and a little more happy.

Friday 3 October 2008

A Good Night Sleep.

HI guy's you may be thinking that what is this good night sleep all about.
Go through this you'll understand.

Most of the people in this world lost their sleep. there are several reasons for that here i was saying that how to take a god sleep after all your worries sorrows or whatever it is....
1) Establish a regular sleeping schedule:
Its more important hat you to make a sleeping schedule and you've to go to bed on a same time regularly. Do not force yourself to sleep. Once your on bed if you can not fall into sleep with in 20 minutes getup and read any newspaper or your study material or whatever you like to read. But don't listen to music its also help you to sleep but its not the right way to go. Read until you feel drowsy and then sleep, no matter where you sleep.
2) Get up at same time:
Always try to get up at the same time. don't try to make up for lost sleep by napping or sleeping late on weekends. Once you practice on getting up same time it will help you a lot in many ways. if you get up a little early in the morning you can have a small walk or yoga etc to make your mind and body steady.
3) Don't take your Troubles to Bed:
You may have many troubles or work load in day time but while going top sleep you have to be relax so that you can have a nice sleep. Clear your mind and release all your tension through progressive relaxation exercises. There are many ways to relax your mind if you relax your mind whole body will automatically relax, its all about mind stress. so don't take any stress while going to sleep. best way is forget for the time being. at first site it seem to be more difficult for that say a phrase at least 10 times while your on bed "My Mind is relaxing ","I'm feeling better", ETC. it wil help you to sleep well.

So Guy's these are the main 3 ways to have a good night sleep. I hope this will help you people to have a nice sleep. Another thing its not good to be in cell phones when you feeling so sleepy. Keep Ask God's grace also to have a nice sleep.

If you want any more relaxation ideas or a support to be feel better in your life or you've any questions please leave comments or you can also contact me on my mail id morri.nomore@gmail.com
Thank You.